Sorry for what you are going thu-. - The fortunate part is that you get to say the goodbye that you always wanted to but were too embarrassed to utter.
Did not get to spend enough time w/ my maternal grandmother. She lived in an incredibly remote area of the already remote Manitoba prairies. - Conditions were about like RaceAngel describes, no electricity, gas or running water & 1/4 of the time hitch up the horse to get anyplace but, damn, aside from the times w/ my bride they were the best damn times of my life. - Tough lady, didn't need a politician to make her the peer of any male.
Advice from an old man - Pay not a whit of attention to those who say really dumb things such as "She is gone already" or the really sensitive "She is a vegetable"
I have held three people while they passed and I have no doubt, not the faintest shadow of a doubt, none at all, that they wanted to be held until the decided to leave on their own terms.
thank you! i hold her all the time! im always kissing an huggin her! i want her to know she means the world to me and i love her forever! : (