Sorry gang I know I'm so busy I don't get a chance to join you guys as much as I would like to, and this post is kind of a bummer, but I'm so bumbed out I kind of need some widsom from my family, or maybe a bunch of sholders to cry on.........
This friend of mind I worked with a couple of years ago at a different Security Company.......came home the other night and found his wife in the arms of another man........without saying a word he put on his uniform, went out into the back yard and put a 40 cal in his head.
Why do we has humans do this to each other? I'm at a lost for words, and widsom. I need someone that has had experience to answer my question.

Sorry about the subject matter

The Night Dragon

This is a tragedy of the first order. I went on craigslist the other day, and under the "rants and raves", cheating was the subject. Why do we do this to each other? That is the million dollar question. Good luck finding an answer. What is more tragic, is the aftermath. Your friend, God rest his soul, obviously loved his wife, and was hurt beyond repair. My ex (God rest his soul, even tho he cheated), said that he never "intended" his indiscretion, to become his new girlfriend. When I confronted him with proof, he tried to make me sound crazy, rather than admit to what he'd done. I left him, and divorced him over it. 10 years later, he was still begging me to take him back, which I never could. He became a drunk/drug addict, and it eventually killed him. Why? I wish I knew. She was an addict also, so maybe, that's where it started, who knows. I forgave him, in time. I just never could forget. The problem is, I'm left with residual trust issues now. I hate what all of that did to me. Collateral damage is something that comes from this one selfish act (the cheating).  And what form it takes, no one can predict.

Agree with Tweek...definately a tragedy. One that his widow will have to live with. Been in that situation, and what I can't figure is that if either party thinks the grass is greener with someone else, at least have the respect for the other party and say so. Why do people have to sneak around..cause they know they are gonna get caught. Don't know dragon. I think you have asked a question that there never will be a "right" answer to. All we can do is try to understand. Deeply sorry for the loss (and action) of your friend.

Kenny...... So sorry for your loss Bro. Don't have any "Words of wisdom" or even any that will take the pain away. You have experienced something that none of us every wants to go through..... All I can offer is my thoughts and prayers for you and all those affected..........

Sorry for your loss Kenny. After 30+ years working in Emergency Services and responding to this type of ending I have only seen one note of explaination. Few people see how far and deep it is felt and by how many. Family and friends will question the motive or level of pain that that person was feeling.
Keep the good times shared with those who have passed and forgive them for their time of dispair.

Wish I could make it all better for you Kenny; especially for your friend. Some folks just can't reach out to others, they internalize it. Others are so hurt and take the cheating to mean that they weren't good enough, rich enough, etc, etc. Usually the kindest, most tenderhearted folks feel the most shame. Kenny, we all wish we had an answer for you, but the truth is .... we don't. All we can do is be there for you, and the others who try to make sense of it. Please know that you and all involved are in my prayers. God bless.....

My condolences on the loss of your friend,its sad that so many end their lives in such a manner.Lost a friend also like that,and all of us end up wondering what we may have done different or tried to,if we had known the pain they were going thru.Its best to reach out to others when a person is depressed,or hurt emotionally its the best way to find solace in a crazy world.

Hey Dragon, long time no hear from !! Lost 3 good friend in the last 2 years thru similar circumstances, not easy bud. Heres something that helped a son of one of the guys, its from one of Irelands most popular songwriters.... stay safe mo chara

Nobody Knows (Paul Brady)

Johnny’s got high expectations
He’s gonna rise
Everyone knows that Johnny is ready
He’s ready to fly
Up on the rooftop he turns to the crowd
No one is waiting
No one is there

Chorus

Nobody knows why Elvis threw it all away
Nobody knows what Ruby had to hide
Nobody knows why some of us get broken hearts
And some of us find a world that’s clear and bright
You could be packed up and ready
Knowing exactly where to go
How come you miss the connection?
No use in asking…the answer is nobody knows
No use in asking…the answer is nobody knows

Johnny will keep his illusions
What else can he do?
And you can pretend that it would be different
If it happened to you
But up on the rooftop, it’s a whole other world
And who could see heaven
And not want to stay?

Only those that choose to take their own lives have all the answers, the rest of us are left to have questions about how or what we could have done to help a friend in their time of desperation. Time allows the heart to mend but the mind never will.

Thanks to everyone that provided their imput......it all made a difference in how I feel.
I know I could always count on my Biker Family.
Love you guys......alright not like that Boof.
Night Dragon

Thanks again to my Family for helping me through this tragic time.
If you ever seen this on a Police / Security Officer please tell them how sorry you are for their loss.........it sure helped me.
The Dragon

Rory man I loved that song.....so peaceful it almost put me to sleep...........and the 4 glasses of wine I've had..........Oh shit I have to go to work now.
Thanks again Mate..I appreaciated it.
Dragon

So sorry for your loss dragon i have been a cop for 16 years and have seen these tragic events with my own eyes and had to make many death notifications to family members and there are no words to take the pain away. Just know you your friend and family are in my prayers

Thank you Sir....appreciate it
Dragon

Mate I went through a very similar thing last year and its harder than grade 10 maths for me to work out why my mate did it..All I know is it wasnt through anything I didnt do or say..We all tried to get his head right but he had his mind made up.Shit mate I know how ya feel.His darlin little missus rang me before she rang the ambulance or the cops and that was one of the toughest moments in my whole bullet riddled drunken life,The only thing you can really do is be a bloody true mate and watch over his people who are left behind..Oh yeah I know what you bloody mean mate no bloody soppy man love shit please ...CHEERS MATE